Many people would confuse me for an extrovert. I am friendly (I am from South Dakota and Minnesota and we all are friendly). I love people and have always had many friends. I am not an extrovert. I need a lot of down time to recharge. Most of my interests are pretty solitary...reading and crafting are at the top. I am not a team sport person. Never have been.
Nothing makes me cringe more than the thought of a benefit. Teeming crowds of people that I don't know turns my stomach. The skill of "small talk" is something that evades me. When Jud told me that Park Nicollet Medical Foundation (his medical practice) was having it's Celebration Of Life, I cringed.
I was crabby until he suggested that we go shopping at LaRue's. LaRue's...funky clothes for the middle-aged women. Soft flowing clothes that mask the lumps. Jewelry that I would not be able to make...YES!!!
Jud and I went together and picked out about ten outfits. I liked the first one I tried on. (Also, I didn't want to try any more on!). I am wearing it in the picture above. It is an Oriental pantsuit with an elastic waist and no need for Spanx!!! The shoulder-dusting earrings sealed the deal. Kat took the picture above. Not a bad picture for a woman who often closes her eyes. Then we realized that is didn't show the detail of the outfit, as it is asymmetrical.
Aha! Now you can get a better idea. I was throwing together the necklace and looking for a bag the hour before we left but I felt like I looked good and looked like "me". When you feel comfortable in what you are wearing, you are more comfortable with yourself. I had a nice time. My husband was very happy to have me by his side. Benefits? Still not my favorite thing...but I think I will tolerate them better. Who knows, this might be my go-to outfit for the next...ten years!